I have been sick for a little while now and when that happens I can slip into fear. Fear that I am doing wrong. That thinking is serious trouble for me. This past week I started to feel better so I took a meeting at 7:30 am and pushed through the day with productivity as my guiding light. As predicted I woke up feeling sick again. Then the fear kicked in. Oh no, I am sick again? And under that fear was I must be doing it wrong. A trusted friend reminded me that healing hurts.

I realized yes, it does hurt. Fever is our bodies way of fighting sickness, inflammation is natural but it hurts.

This also applies to emotional pain.

My world is full of lessons and different emotions and sometimes they will cause pain. Sometimes it is appropriate to feel bad. I know it’s not fun but unprocessed grief have kept me stuck. Before I start to panic I want to ask myself three important questions. Is this pain going to take me out of the game of life? Is there something I can learn from this pain? Can I take this experience and transcend it to even more self love and acceptance?

Perfection is not possible. I know you know that but, say it again. Perfection is not possible. So do not make your pain mean more that it does.

The only way to know your worthiness outside of production is to not produce one day.

—Kristina Dennis, life coach